Relationship is one of the most important aspects in the human life. we are either in a relationship with our immediate family, extended family, friends in the neighborhood, colleagues in the work place, and or in schools. But that is not exactly the kind of relationship i want to talk about in this little write-up.
I am going to be focusing on the relationship between the opposite sex. we wonder why some people are successful in relationships, and others, i mean a whole lot of others are not. why is it so?, what are they getting right or wrong, these and lots more are what i will be writing in this little piece of work. I hope you find it helping. I will be highliting some of the immportant ingredients in havivg a relationship work right.
1) Communication: communication is a way of sending signals through signs,sounds and other forms of passing across ones thoughts and feeling to the listener or receiver of the actions. Communication is as important in a relationship as in a normal day life of an individual. How can one be in a relationship and you fail to communicate with your partner?. it is wrong. Some men and women claim to be so busy with work that they forget to call their partners all through the day. If you truly need to succeed in relationship, then you must start putting communication with your partner in the very forefront. Call him/her always, they long to hear your voice and as a matter of fact it means a lot to them.
2) Send messages: most times calling them on phone is not enough, but we need to send them messages. Messages goes a longer way than calls on phone. after speaking to your partner even for a couple of hour, on phone the memories fades away sooner than later. but the massages you send them goes longer. a text message is ok, an email or a letter. They will read it over and over again, and it will re-assure them of your presence, love and care for them.
3) Defend Them: when you are in a relationship, learn to defend your partner, whether he/she is around or not. stand up for them, say no to any form of railing leveled against them in their absence. You may not totally agree with your partners innocence of the matter on ground, but for your relationship to work out standup for them and then later when you two are left alone, you can argue it out. when your family is trying to molest or make things difficult for your partner, stand up for him/her and defend them, dont join the crowed to crucify him/her.
4)Show Your Love Publicly: you chose him/her against many people that actually came your way for a relationship., then you must be proud enough to flaunt your partner in the public. re-assure him/her of your love. Public display of affection has a way of boosting trust and confidence in a relationship. tell him/her how much you love them in the public, amongst your friends, family, school mates, colleagues etc.
Dont be shy of your partner in the public, show and tell them at any slightest opportunity that comes your way.
5) Plan Dates:You guys may be too busy with work and career, but please try to make out time to be together for dates. weekends will be OK for that. You may not need to spend the whole day on a date, just spend a couple of hours together and make the most use of the time together. tell yourselves how much you love yourselves, how much you miss yourselves ask about their work, plans , and talk about what the future hold for you guys together. dates creates the platform for effective communication.
6) Put God into it: some people may not totally agree with this point, but that is the most important ingredient in the meal of relationship. God in your relationship makes it easier and fun. God will give you the direction and guidelines on actions to take per-time. You did not create your partner, so you cannot change anything about them, but God did and can change anything from them. So always consult God in prayers,and seek His guide.
7) Tolerance: This is hard for most people, but if you are ready to go into a relationship[p, then you must be ready to tolerate your partner. We all came from different back-grounds and have different up-bringing, so you must not expect your partner to act same way as yourself. What is then need to cope with our difference of nature is the simple term of tolerance.Keep teaching your partner, and time will make them learn your new way of life you want from them. old habit don't die easily, so it may take him/her time, but learn to bear with them for the desired change you require, and if they cannot change and you can, why not change to suit them, it does not make your any way a weak partner. In the real sense you are stronger than your partner for letting go to please him/her.
There so many other ingredients for a successful relationship with your partner. Just send me an email on uchddaniel@gmail.com or Uche Daniel on Facebook for more information.
Do have a great and fun filled Love life.
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